Once upon a time, far too many moons ago, I was a Girl Guide.
I have many fond memories from that time and I recall our group being supportive, open, warm and encouraging to all girls. We were proud of the fact we pooled our skills and helped each other where there were weaknesses. I learnt a great deal from my time there which I carry forward into the work I do today.
I'm sure the Girl Guide Association has moved on greatly over the last 30 years, as has the Scout Movement. I expect the activities are even more thrilling, the skills imparted more practical, the events better organised and the ethos even more inclusive.
I'm sure, then, that you are as saddened as I to hear of a less than welcoming Brown Owl. One whose reluctance about accepting a new Guide with a learning disability was aired.
I am always one to think of both sides in every situation, and you may well simply have a woman here who was nervous about whether she had the skills to adapt to teaching a young lady whose learning styles differ, but who expressed those concerns wrongly.
Perhaps she felt she would need additonal training or to alter her working style, and that filled her with dread.
Perhaps she has a personal experience of disability which is painful for her. After all people manifest guilt and remorse and pain in a miriad of ways.
Perhaps her ideas are genuinely not up to what the Guide Movement expects and she is in the wrong role.
|Wise words for us all from model Natty Goleniowska who has Down's Syndrome|
Either way I feel heavy-hearted, not only for the girl and her family who feel offended, but also for the lady in question, who has clearly been denied the benefits of a truly inclusive society. For inclusion is a two-way street which we were denied growing up in this country many years ago. Our children's generation are lucky to have friends with learning disabilities, who teach them a different way of viewing the world and the most important lesson of all, which is acceptance, something this lady lacks.
I think the guides she is claiming to wish to protect could teach her much on this important lesson in life.
This situation is not like many I find myself writing to resolve; countering those like former UKiP candidate Geoffery Clark who called for compulsory termination of babies with disabilities (OPEN LETTER TO MR CLARK), or supporting a family whose daughter with Down's Syndrome is being forced out of a school in Malaysia by other, ignorant, parents taking legal action against her.
No, this is a more widespread, insipid kind of prejudice and discrimination but which is thankfully easier to change through education.
I do think a public response would do much to allay the public anger that has arisen from this incident and I await your reply, which I will publish to the thousands of families and professions within our network.
I would also like to offer my services as a speaker and trainer in inclusion and disability for institutions such as yours.
I very much hope that the 12 year old girl in question will feel fully welcomes into one of your groups shortly, as I hope both our girls will be when the time comes. None of should let a blip like this stop us seeking mainstream activities for our children.
I leave you with a post I wrote about the true nature of inclusion, through our children's eyes.
THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THE BIRTHDAY PARTY INVITE
Author of Europe's Top Down's Syndrome Blog: DOWNS SIDE UP
Mum of ambassador and model NATTY GOLENIOWSKA, 6, who has Down's Syndrome
Speaker, campaigner, writer, trainer, educator, expert in Down's Syndrome
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"Changing perceptions of Down's Syndrome gently from within hearts"
The Girl Guides later responded favourably with the following statement:
Girlguiding UK is open to all girls and young women. This is one of our most important values – and we strive to uphold it in all circumstances. We are very proud to have many young members with Down’s Syndrome and other disabilities. And we would like to welcome more. We encourage all our volunteers to include young members with disabilities and we have a network of special needs advisors and specific resources to support them in this.
It is very difficult to comment on an individual circumstance without knowing the details. However, we are very saddened if any potential young member, and their family, feels they have been excluded from joining us. We very much hope to have a conversation with the family and the volunteer as quickly as possible to support them both to find a way to include this girl in guiding – and be a full part of everything we offer.
We would encourage anybody with concerns to contact our membership support services: firstname.lastname@example.org